Can exes be friends?

What do you think?

Can exes really be friends? But the bigger question is - should exes stay friends?

https://www.beckercounseling.com/can-exes-really-friends/

The Anniversary Malady

Sometimes it hits you full force, sometimes it creeps up on you.  But the anniversary is there, looming.

The smells, the sounds, the sights and then the dates. 

Check out this article on "The Anniversary Malady" to see how one widow deals with her grief and the anniversaries of simple days and holidays before her husband passed.

7 WAYS TO MAKE A WOMAN LAUGH

In this article in Muscle & Fitness, a stand-up comedian talks about making a woman laugh on a date.

Here are 7 secrets to being funny in the dating world.

• 7 WAYS TO MAKE A WOMAN LAUGH

How Are Your Devices Hurting Your Relationships?

This topic comes up over and over with clients and I have heard many stories about phones, computers and tablets leading to affairs or other relationship problems. Maybe your significant other has possibly treated you badly online. Or vice versa. You may have been hurt publicly by an acquaintance in the online world. There are so many ways to use the internet to send or receive harmful content.  Has it hurt you in some way?

You may not realize it but you could have a serious issue with the electronics in your life. Your devices may be controlling you or your life to some degree, regarding the amount of time you spend using it or the purpose you use it for. You may feel unable to put your device down or even use it a bit less.

But the real problem is the content you read or post. Maybe you have seen an uncomfortable message online about you by someone you care about. Or perhaps you have written something yourself that you regret. Possibly, a text or photo has caused you or someone else great pain. Regret is difficult to accept for most of us.

Facebook, Twitter, Snapchat and Instagram posts are the main forums that are misused, but there are many ways of putting damaging, cruel, accusatory, inappropriate, or disloyal messages out there. Which has hurt you? Photos and video also can cause great harm. Think of a party you were not invited to but saw online. Or a revenge post someone put up. These can cause long lasting harm.

Most harmful in a therapeutic sense are the messages that disclose or lead to cheating/infidelity. This is one of the most difficult relationship dynamics to overcome in therapy. And devices almost always play a part. Facebook abuse alone is responsible for many cheating incidents as reported by the clients that have come in. Often it starts with searching for a relationship you had long ago. This turns into online flirting and so on.

Being stalked online can also be a dangerous problem and can be a sign of a larger threat. Online porn can intrude on healthy relationships or become an addiction.

So, be careful with your device. If it’s already a problem, therapy will help. Call Becker Counseling for an appointment and let’s discuss healthy ways to address how devices and technology are affecting your life and relationships. Call or Text 732.406.4422

THE BEST WAY TO BREAK UP? JUST RIP OFF THE BAND-AID.

Is there really a "best way" to break up?

Do you go slow and steady or just "rip off the band-aid"?

New research shows it might be better just to do it.


#breakup #band-aid #relationships


https://www.beckercounseling.com/the-best-way-to-break-up-just-rip-off-the-band-aid/

What are your core values?

Are your core values at the center of your relationship? Does what  you believe in drive your daily interactions with your spouse / partner? Or is it just passion?

What will last?

#corevalues #relationshiptips #relationship

https://www.beckercounseling.com/forget-common-interests-successful-relationships-need-something/

How Marriage May Break Your Heart … Or Keep It Healthy

Check out this article from Time Magazine, regarding marriage and your heart health.

“People’s heart health, many studies have concluded, is very connected to the health of their relationships.

But a new study suggests that the relationship between long term relationships and cardiac health may be more complex than it looks. It may not be the marriage that’s making people healthy, it may be that the character traits that are damaging their health are also keeping them from being married.” states BELINDA LUSCOMBE, author for Time.

In my experience as a marriage counselor, this does seem to be the case that happy marriages lead to healthier people. Contact Becker to see if we can help you get happy and healthy!

7 Glaring Signs it is Time to Break Up with That Toxic Friend

Do you have that one friend that might be toxic? If you dread making plans or seeing them then maybe it is time for a "friendship breakup". 

Check out this article for 7 glaring signs that it might be time to break up that friendship. But remember to do it with dignity, you never know what the future holds. You may want to friend them again someday.

https://www.beckercounseling.com/time-break-toxic-friend/